翻開十年前的手帳（中）

Be yourself.

要做自己先舒服自在。

Get over it before you get on with it.

舊傷口未好，唔好去開展新戀情，真係無乜好結果。

You won’t be happy with a partner until you can be happy on your own.

Choose someone who makes you laugh.

係呀，揀個令我笑嘅人好重要。

Don’t keep making the same mistakes.

Certain people are off limits.

有啲人係唔應該去愛。

You can’t change people.

Don’t stay with someone who doesn’t care.

At least 要在乎我感受，係咪？

If you can’t trust them, you haven’t got a relationship.

Be honest.

Don’t play games.

坦白，唔好 Play game，都係建立信任的基本。

Don’t paint new partners with old brushes.

Make sure you both have the same shared goals.

You can’t make someone love you.

迫唔嚟，我知，迫到亦無意思，變心嘅無咗亦唔使恨。

Be cruel to be kind.

Be nice.

幾時都要 be nice，即使兩個幾 close 都要尊重。你以為對佢差啲啲佢唔會走？其實任何人都可以轉身離開。

Be together because you want to, not because you need to.

Allow your partner the space to be themselves.

幾黐身都好，大家都需要空間。
幾親密都好，各人都需要私隱。

Look to your own faults.

Put each other first.

Be a heroine.

Accept the differences, embrace what you have in common.

Let not the sun go down upon your wrath.

Be the first to say sorry.

一句 sorry 如果可以令戰爭停止、令你愛嘅人繼續喺身邊，其實係好廉價嘅方法。
有時一句 sorry 嘅重點唔係誰對誰錯，而係有幾想去和好。

Don’t be little your partner.

Don’t put them on a pedestal and expect them to stay there.

Don’t dump responsibility on your partner.

Never stop trying to be attractive.

無論幾多歲，唔好放棄做個靚仔靚女。

If you can say anything nice, do.

講多啲好說話氹下對方，永遠係為一段關係加甜嘅好方法。

Don’t try to be their parent.

可以關心，可以無微不致，但唔好管束，唔好當對方無自理能力。

Don’t be a nag.

If little things annoy you, say so — with humour.

Go that extra step in trying to please them.

Make sure your partner is always pleased to see you.

Jealousy is your stuff, not theirs.

Make time for romance.

單單事務式嘅關係好易殺死一段愛情。

Have a passion for your life together.

Share the workload.

Trust the other one to do the job.

Be part of their life.

會帶你見家人朋友嘅人先係將你放入生命裡嘅人。

Make sure your love making is making love.

做愛真係要愛先好做，真嘅，感覺會好唔同。

Don’t control them.

自由係好可貴，讓我愛嘅人自由咁飛。

Most everyday arguments are about something else.

Respect privacy.

從來唔會 check 男友電話，如果連呢種基本信任都無，仲一齊為乜？

Treat your partner better than your best friend.

好朋友係要成日見、咩偈都傾、一齊去玩！

Don’t be offended if they want some space.

Men like flowers, too.

Keep your finances seperate.

Contentment is a high aim.

Be generous to each other financially.

You make a choice every day.

Don’t be a martyr.

You don’t both have to have the same rules.

呢個我仲未好掌握到，但我知有時大家把尺係好唔同，要尊重彼此嘅不同。

Put yourself in their shoes.

我有時好主觀，好後知後覺，要過後先識得企起對方度諗。

In-laws are part of the package.

Keep talking.

以上呢一大堆係 The rules of love. 
我依然時時提醒自己愛一個人雖然係隨心嘅事，但亦不要過於輕慢隨意，要好好去愛先可以一直好好愛下去。
好多條rules我都仲奉行緊。